| Everyone
in China knows about the trauma of university entrance exams,
but the first test for Chinese children comes much earlier
in life than this teenage challenge and the uncertainties
of job interviews.
The jolly little bundles on their very first birthday are
very likely to be subjected to their first multiple-choice
test-the grabbing game.
On the occasion of their child's first birthday, after enjoying
a sumptuous feast, the bubbling baby's parents and relatives
place an assortment of articles on the table for the child
to choose from as a test of his or her inclinations and capabilities
in later life.
According to scholars, the history of the grabbing game can
be traced back to the Northern and Southern Dynasties (AD
386-589).
And despite the great social changes, the country has seen
many Chinese people still maintain the ancient custom.
Many Chinese people still hold elaborate banquets in their
homes or in posh hotels to celebrate the first birthdays of
their children.
If you happen to number among the fortunate foreigners lucky
enough to get invited to such a banquet, don't forget to prepare
"something special" for the baby in addition to
the usual gift.
Then, what is this something special?
Quite simply, the special things are the various articles
needed for the grabbing game. You can bring along any special
article that takes your fancy, including such things as books,
toys, cosmetics, jewellery, flowers or money.
After the items are put up for grabs, you just sit back and
wait to see what baby wraps his pinkies around.
In the eyes of many Chinese parents, a book is the best choice.
If a book is the first thing to take baby's fancy, the chances
are that the little treasure will become an avid reader, and
if the gods are in a good mood, maybe even a famous scholar.
This is the right time to express your best wishes, because
the baby's "judicious choice" adds luster to the
lucky parents.
But not all the parents are lucky enough to have bookish babies.
Remember, there are other articles on the table.
To encourage the scholarly choice, some parents "helpfully"
see to it that a book is the closest thing to baby, or offer
baby a bit of friendly persuasion.
The parents do so because of their fervent hope that their
children will succeed in life. So, if a little "back-dooring"
goes on, you'd best be understanding.
Predictably, a few little darlings pay no attention to mommy
and daddy's helpful hints. The most embarrassing thing is
for a wayward boy to make a grab at toys or women's cosmetics.
Any little tyke who does so will be widely considered a certain
sybarite destined to indulge in pleasures, even of the immoral
sort.
At the moment, be ready to console the parents with supportive,
though not necessarily sincere, suggestions.
As with those much feared and frequently failed university
entrance exams, a good suggestion might be to have the little
emperor try again! |